Oh the single life, the way things are looking for me, I think I’ll be single with my puppy Reggie until the end of time. LOL! No, that’s not actually what I think, but I used to.
Being the only “single” person in a group full of taken ladies can be somewhat discouraging. I say that because well, that is always me.
For a long time now, I have been single. Well my heart and mind were not, but in reality, yes I was. You see, making choices to fulfill the needs of the flesh, really aren’t the best way to go about life. You definitely shouldn’t your emotions or flesh to make any kind decisions.
When we try to satisfy our flesh, we end up making the wrong decisions, and doing things we shouldn’t be doing.
At times it is super frustrating. I see guys in relationships that are there just for the companionship and afraid of being alone. I see women who rush things just so they can “have a man” and be married. I told myself that was something I would not be doing. Although, I too fell in the trap.
Over the years I have allowed my flesh to take over what I know what is right and man, did the bad decision making follow. We all say that having someone accept us for who we are doesn’t really bother us if they don’t, however when you’re at an all time low, and no one is there, what other people think can take a toll on your heart.
Being single can be the absolute best time of your life.
It’s a time to find yourself. It’s a time of figure who you really are. When we get into relationships too soon, all sorts of chaos can happen. If you truly do not know a person, you will soon begin to see that real person, and you may not be too “into” that person after you see the real them.
Ladies and gents, the thing about being single is, you are free to make your own decisions, do what you want and how you want to do it. Whether you want to tolerate someone or if you don’t. Whether you want to spend more time with someone or not.
Being single allows you to figure out the real person you want to become. Learning who you are is a huge part of all of this. Let Jesus help you to figure out who you are.
Ask Jesus daily, how can I be a better person, ask him how he can show you. Being single is not torture, its a season that you need in order to grow. To grow in your faith, in life and to become a better person. Enjoy life the way God wants you to.
Being in a relationship is great! However, give yourself time to take care of you before anyone is added to the equation.
My favorite saying is, “if you aren’t happy with you, how can you be happy with anyone else.” MAN will not fulfill that need, only Jesus can!!
Jesus us always there to listen, to heal, to forgive, and to help you get past your short coming.
Trust in Him, and Him alone.