Forgiving Yourself is OK!

Have you ever done something that you are still holding on to?

Do you keep replaying it over and over in your mind, and keep asking yourself why?

Why did I do that? or How could I have done that? fullsizeoutput_9be

My favorite one was, “I can not believe I did that.”

We are make mistakes. No one is perfect.

I have said and done some really mean and horrible things, but thank you Lord for helping me to change and to see things in a different light.

One of the best things about a mistake is that it helps you change and learn from it. Without mistakes, you wouldn’t know what works and what doesn’t. You wouldn’t see the growth in yourself without mistakes. Trial and error, you are learning constantly.

We grow as individuals from mistakes. The hardest part about a mistake is we tend to let them dwell and fester until it takes over our thought process and sits on our hearts. We have to teach our minds to think of a mistake as just that, a mistake, learn from it, forgive yourself, and move on.

I  wonder why we forgive others so easily, but we don’t forgive ourselves as fast. It’s a mistake not a life sentence.

I didn’t always use to be a forgiver. I would hold grudges and quit speaking to people.  Then I realized something, I could have been hurting someone else by doing these things and also, I am taking away what God has for me. I’m going to miss my blessing focusing on hurt feelings and grudges.

I missed my best friend Misty’s wedding due to hurt feelings and holding a grudge. Thank you God we are still friends today. Throwing away 30 plus years of friendship would have been worse and I thank God everyday for her continued loyal friendship.

We tend to miss our blessings when we hold grudges. We are so focused on the grudge or trying to figure out how to get even, we can’t see what God has for us.

When we as humans operate on feelings, we tend to make it extremely worse than it actually is. When we put feelings in the way of the actual offense, we will think something and automatically think this is right, let me continue to act this way. I can not stress enough, we as humans can not operate on hurt feelings. IMG_1127

Forgiving someone can be a challenge, but remember that forgiveness is for you not for the other person. When we don’t forgive and keep holding on to the hurt, we are holding ourselves hostage to the pain and hurt and this is what holds back all your blessings and growth.

God wants to see you happy and living life to the fullest, not hurt or upset or dwelling on grudges.

We have to train our minds that a mistake is not a prison sentence. We are to learn from them and move on. If we hurt someone, apologize and move forward. You can not change the past, but you can learn from it an grow.

Forgiving yourself and others is also part of self care. Forgiving breaks any negative thoughts you may have or negative feelings you may be holding onto.

REMEMBER, A NEGATIVE MIND WILL NOT PRODUCE A POSITIVE LIFE! 

I encourage everyone to commit 14 days to forgiveness. Whether is be forgiving yourself or forgiving someone else. Read the Bible and find 14 scriptures on forgiveness and study each one daily. Keep a daily journal of your progress and see how much your life and attitude changes when you truly forgive yourself and others and move on to the life God has for you.

Blessings.

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Tis the Season to Forgive

Forgiveness, what is forgiveness?

Forgiveness defines as: (noun) the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven 

I used to have a very hard time with forgiveness. I felt so entitled of my feelings, that I felt others didn’t matter and I should never have to forgive anyone unless I feel like it. Look at the immaturity, but I also look at my progress and see growth.

I’ve learned the importance of forgiveness and why I should continue to forgive others not matter how hard it may be at times.

Never underestimate the power of forgiveness. When we don’t forgive others, we aren’t hurting them, we our hindering ourselves from true joy and receiving the blessings God has for us.

Of course I use Jesus as my example, he forgave us over and over and over and he even died for us, why can’t I be so quick to forgive? Why must I continue to question the situation instead of forgive and move on? WWJD? (what would Jesus do?)

I have learned not forgiving someone, doesn’t hurt the person who hurt you, it actually hurts you. You have to forgive people for your health, you peace of mind, and for your over all out look on life.

Let Jesus be the example. He gave his life for you to be forgiven. He knew we would fail him but yet he still forgave us.

Easier said than done right?

PRAY! PRAY! PRAY!

Prayer and constant communication with Jesus can help you with forgiveness, I mean who better to learn from than Jesus himself.

Talking with Jesus daily will get you through any situation and know that he is with you along the way and will help with healing and forgiveness.

I think too often we allow our pride and emotions to take over and the thought of forgiving someone is to far fetched, but keep in mind what the Bible says about forgiveness:

Matthew 6:15 “But if you do not forgive others of their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” NIV

I keep that bible verse close to me because I too one day would want my Father to forgive me. The gift of forgiveness is worth more than any amount of money or material possession.

If someone hurt your feelings….forgive.

If someone wronged you in someway….forgive.

If someone lied on you….forgive.

Your relationship didn’t work out…..forgive.

This holiday season, give the gift of forgiveness.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year.

Blessings.

 

~Forgiveness~

Today at church, the father told a great story about forgiveness. He spoke of a man who never wanted any gifts from anyone, he never wanted help from anyone, he never wanted anything. He was so angry. This story really touched me.

During Hurricane Harvey, this particular person’s house flooded and he required the help of others, and everyday they showed up to help, and everyday the man was mad. Finally the father talked with him and the male told him of a story. He told the Father when he was 15 years old, his mom bought him everything he needed for baseball. The bat, glove, etc. The young boy loved it, he was so excited about it, he couldn’t believe his mom had done that for him. When his dad got home, the mom told him what she had bought for their son, which made the dad extremely upset. It made him so upset, that he pushed the wife and made her head bleed. From that point on, the young man never wanted anything from anyone and did not forgive his father for hitting his mom.

The male, now older, spoke with the father, and told him how he wanted to be forgiven for the way he has been acting towards others that were trying to help him, and he wants to forgive his father. The father stayed and prayed with him and told him that Jesus asks us to forgive the same way he forgives us. That day a weight was lifted off of the man’s shoulders and you could see the relief on his face.

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Could you imagine holding on to so much pain for so many years, what that could do to your body? What it could do your life? After listening to that, I realized that I too have difficulty forgiving those who have hurt me or forgiving those who have wronged me in some way. I’m sure my friends will tell you my attitude wasn’t the best, and I was always so negative.

God wants us to forgive others, not for them, but for YOU. When you hold on to anger, hatred, meanness etc., those don’t effect the person you’re angry at, they effect you and how you see life, and how you treat others.

Life is meant to be enjoyable and a blessing, but when we have these negative feelings, it hinders us to living the most amazing life. It also doesn’t allow you to work for God the way he needs you to work for him. Remember we are here to spread God’s love to others.

Let today be the day you let all the hurt feelings go. Forgive the person or persons who have done you wrong or talked about you. Release these negative thoughts so that you can let the positive vibes in.

PRAY – FORGIVE – LIVE

God wants you to enjoy every part of life and to enjoy life to the fullest. You can’t enjoy life with feelings of hate or trying to find ways to get back at someone. Pray, give it to God, forgive and watch how God changes your life.

Blessings.

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Matthew 18: 21-22 (21)Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? (22)Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.