Are you focused on the good or the bad? Make it appoint to focus on the good.
Although for some it may be hard, encourage others, share your experience. When you focus on the good, the bad will become non- existent to you.
Remember this is your journey and no one else is on the same path with you.
So as the year comes to an end, focus on all the good God has blessed you with. Change your way of thinking and watch how you recognize your blessings.
Have a great day!
How do you handle things when they don’t go your way? Do you talk to God?
Do you ever ask yourself, “God what did I do wrong to make you punish me like this?’
Through out my life things have happened that I was defiantly not thrilled about. The old saying comes to mind, “you win some, you lose some.”
During my path of growth and faith maturity, I have learned a couple of things, 1. things happen and there is nothing you can do about it. 2. It all depends on how you see the situation.
The definition of turmoil: a state of great disturbance, confusion, or uncertainty.
I know a lot of times I used to get mad when things happened that disrupted my life. I would automatically blame God when things went south. I would even question his very existence.
I’m telling y’all, the devil has a field day with my thoughts.
But the truth is, it’s our own feelings and actions that cause us to think this way. If we are thinking of he bad all the time, how can we see the good.
When something doesn’t go your way, how do you react? Think of the last time you experienced something that was wrong or it changed your day completely. Did you say “God why me?” or did you say, ” God, what is the lesson you are trying to teach me?”
I used to always ask “God, why me?”
Failed relationship, “God why me?”
You know I am broke, how am I going to pay this bill? “God, why me?”
I have to work longer hours, and I want to go out, “God, why me?”
When in reality, this is what should have been my thought process.
Failed relationship – God was protecting me from a person who wasn’t meant for me
No money – God, I promoted you to a higher paying position
You know I am broke – God, how are you handling your money? How can I bless you with more if you are not being careful with what I have blessed you with.
I have to work longer hours – God, you were complaining about money and now I have made an opportunity for you to make more money.
It really is all about how you see the situation.
It is always easier to see the bad in a situation, however we have to train our brains to look for the good in every situation. Look for the blessing over the burden.
God will bless you in his timing, not yours. You are here to serve God not the other way around, We put our focus on way too much of the worldly things, rather than focusing on what God wants for us.
Take a few minutes today and think on what has God saved you from. What happened? How did is play out? Did you notice the blessing in disguise?
Here is my testimony:
I was 20 and in love. Gosh, I thought I knew everything. I had a good job, a great guy, attending and very much involved with my church. I made a few doctors visits and was told having kids maybe difficult for me. I don’t even remember if PCOS was a thing then. At the age of 21, I found out that I would be having a baby and couldn’t have been happier. On 12/09/02, at the age of 22, we welcomed our son into the world. I had a c-section and I remember telling my then husband, don’t let him leave your sight. I was already being over protective, but hey that’s what moms do. A year went by and well, life changed. Before I knew it, I was divorced by 26. Oh man did I blame so much on God. How and why could this be? Around the age of 24 when we separated, I began talking to someone instead of focusing on what I needed to be focusing on, and that was my family. Once everything was done, I began life as a single mom trying to make things work. I wouldn’t say dark days, however some of those days weren’t the best at all. Some days were worse than others, but I will say this, the one thing I do remember was that I only spoke to God when I absolutely needed or wanted something or it was to blame him for the life I was not happy with. Finally at the age of 35, I decided to put God before everything. My decisions, my life, before I even spoke, I talked to God and you know what, things still went wrong. However, the way I viewed life with God on my side was different, how I looked at the situation and reacted was different. My friends changed, some people are still here others are gone. The guy I thought I couldn’t be without, and who was completely wrong and toxic for me, was gone. Don’t get me wrong, he was a good person, he just wasn’t good for me. Little did I know the biggest test of my life would be on March 13th, 2017. On this day, which is also my dad’s birthday, I would be terminated from my job. Still a single mom running on Jesus and Coffee, I was unemployed. Talking to my son about it was one of the hardest things I think I have had to do. To reassure him we would be ok and there wasn’t a need to worry. After about 30 days, I knew my life as a dispatcher was over and it was time to retire. Listening to others issues and problems for 18 years was long enough. I do applaud all the ladies and gents who are still able to continue to work as a 911 dispatcher. You are the real silent heroes and I will forever back the thin gold line. So, the job searching began and disappointment followed, but I stayed praying to God. Cutting back and not spending money like you usually can is harder than you think. Not having a job is a humbling experience. On August 21st, 2017, I started the next chapter of my life and started my first day at my new job. Not only that, it was everything that I had been praying for. No more working holidays, working shift work, and if I do have to work a holiday or weekend, it’s from home and I can be around my family. Being terminated was a blessing in disguise, I would have never left with out being pushed out the door. God knew that too. He knew how passionate I was with helping others. 911 was my life, and I was hurt, I was mad, and I needed answers. When all was said and done, only God knows the plans for your life. (Jeremiah 29:11) Although I wasn’t where I wanted to be financially, I was going to make it. I made it through training, and with all my years of supervising at my previous job, I was promoted to a supervisor within a year. Please understand, when God has yourbest intentions, he makes sure to put you at levels where you belong and absolutely nothing can stand in the way of the blessings God has for you. Even with all these blessings, do y’all know I still had the audacity to ask “where’s my Boaz?” However when it did come to finding a person who is for me, I seriously thought my bad decisions from my past was why I was still single and it was haunting me. I will share something else with y’all, when I was married, I would always say that I wanted a house full of boys, and after being blessed with my first son, I wasn’t able to get pregnant again. Now I spoke this to God back in 2002. Today, guess what, I am engaged and I have a house of 4 young men and a dog named Reggie. God knew having boys at that time was not in my best interest and look now almost 16 years later, prayers answered.
The reason I am sharing my story is to show you God always has your best interests. Everything happens for a reason and in its own timing. Just because things aren’t going the you think they should, does not mean they won’t happen. Don’t block your blessings thinking negatively.
Remember, it’s a bad day, hour or week but it’s not a bad life.
Don’t lose sight of your blessings looking at what went wrong. Focus on the blessing and don’t allow the burdens to overcome you.
God loves you.
Blessings.
Blogging has become a fantastic hobby for me. I have to say I absolutely enjoy writing and sharing my truths.
I read a lot of blogs and I can see so much potential in the writers. I know for me when I get the notification that someone has read my blog or commented makes me smile. I enjoy reading the comments under each post. I can say, I love engaging with people whom I never met and discuss their views and opinions about my writing.
However, we do have those days where we have very little traffic and no one seems to care what you write.
REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED!
Every now and then, check yourself. Ask yourself, why did I do this? Why did I start to write and why did I want the world to read my writings?
I can tell you for me, I started because I wanted to share what I have learned, overcome, pushed through, and prove to myself that yes, you do have a purpose. There is a reason that God has you here on earth.
It feels absolutely amazing to see the comments that I receive about my blog and I really enjoy talking about Jesus and talking about how he has changed my life. Thats my niche, what’s yours? What’s your passion?
I recently had a conversation on Instagram with a female who asked how my christian blog was doing, and she had concerns about not having enough content.
One, the fact that she asked me had me all in my feels, I was so stoked, I was like OMG you asked me, but then I told her the philosophy I use “Ask God what to write about.” I feel as though if I talked to God about what he wants me to write, writing should be pretty easy. I mean who better to spread his truths but the man himself, and he can use my writings to do so.
The point of this post is to remind each and every blogger, focus on your goal. Why did you start? What do you want from this?
Yes you will have people follow and unfollow, comments will flow in and then it will be dry. You’ll have high numbers and low numbers, but focus on your goal and keep that in the front of your mind every time you begin to out your thoughts on paper.
Keep writing, someone wants and needs to read your work!
BE BLESSED!
Oh the single life, the way things are looking for me, I think I’ll be single with my puppy Reggie until the end of time. LOL! No, that’s not actually what I think, but I used to.
Being the only “single” person in a group full of taken ladies can be somewhat discouraging. I say that because well, that is always me.
For a long time now, I have been single. Well my heart and mind were not, but in reality, yes I was. You see, making choices to fulfill the needs of the flesh, really aren’t the best way to go about life. You definitely shouldn’t your emotions or flesh to make any kind decisions.
When we try to satisfy our flesh, we end up making the wrong decisions, and doing things we shouldn’t be doing.
At times it is super frustrating. I see guys in relationships that are there just for the companionship and afraid of being alone. I see women who rush things just so they can “have a man” and be married. I told myself that was something I would not be doing. Although, I too fell in the trap.
Over the years I have allowed my flesh to take over what I know what is right and man, did the bad decision making follow. We all say that having someone accept us for who we are doesn’t really bother us if they don’t, however when you’re at an all time low, and no one is there, what other people think can take a toll on your heart.
Being single can be the absolute best time of your life. 
It’s a time to find yourself. It’s a time of figure who you really are. When we get into relationships too soon, all sorts of chaos can happen. If you truly do not know a person, you will soon begin to see that real person, and you may not be too “into” that person after you see the real them.
Ladies and gents, the thing about being single is, you are free to make your own decisions, do what you want and how you want to do it. Whether you want to tolerate someone or if you don’t. Whether you want to spend more time with someone or not.
Being single allows you to figure out the real person you want to become. Learning who you are is a huge part of all of this. Let Jesus help you to figure out who you are.
Ask Jesus daily, how can I be a better person, ask him how he can show you. Being single is not torture, its a season that you need in order to grow. To grow in your faith, in life and to become a better person. Enjoy life the way God wants you to.
Being in a relationship is great! However, give yourself time to take care of you before anyone is added to the equation.
My favorite saying is, “if you aren’t happy with you, how can you be happy with anyone else.” MAN will not fulfill that need, only Jesus can!!
Jesus us always there to listen, to heal, to forgive, and to help you get past your short coming.
Trust in Him, and Him alone.
Too often when things don’t go our way, or we didn’t get something we think we deserved, we are quick to get upset and blame God.
We harp on the why nots and how come or how could he? The truth is that No that you received was actually a blessing.
We live in a world where everything is at our fingertips. With a touch of a button, you can turn on your car, post to thousands of people, fast gratification is what is in now.
In case you didn’t know, God doesn’t work like that. He never gives you anything before you are ready. When you ask God for something, are you actually ready to receive it?
Seriously, ask yourself:
I want a husband, are you ready to have a husband?
I want a new car, can you afford a new car?
I want a baby, are you ready to put yourself aside for your child?
I want a bigger house, are you taking care of the smaller house you’re in?
How come things can’t change, are you changing anything about your life to make this happen?
You see, when we ask God for things, are we really ready to receive them?
I came across a post on Facebook and it read, ” I wish God would sit down and just tell me what he wants me to do.” My response to that was, if he did, would you actually do it? Or since you know what he wants and will give you, will you continue to do your own thing?
When God would tell me no, I used to get so upset. So upset that it would steal my joy, my laughter, my outlook on the rest of my life. I actually would get mad at God. I look back now and think THANK YOU!! It was all immaturity.
I say that because if I had honestly gotten what I wanted then, I wouldn’t have even known what to do with it. If he had given me that boyfriend, that job, that extra car I thought I wanted, I’d be sad with a low income and an extra payment thinking to myself, how did I get here. Seriously, I asked for it.
Remember God does things in his timing, not ours. HE works on his time table. When HE feels you are ready, you will receive it, and not a moment sooner.
So until he is ready for you to have what you think you want, enjoy your singleness, enjoy your marriage, enjoy what you have going on right now. Enjoy your friendships, your free time. Those things are really a blessing. To be able to look at life on the more positive I haves instead of the negative I don’t have, that’s a real blessing.
Enjoy your moment now, and ask God what can you do for him, life will change and only for the better.
Be blessed.
Good morning,
This morning I thought I’d share the 5 things I do to start my day. The day starts when you open your eyes and you start to think, so here is what I do to get my day going and get the positive juices flowing.
You notice I didn’t add coffee, well that always a must and I really enjoy a cup or two every morning.
Hope you have a wonderful day.
Blessings.
I have been asked a lot of questions on what helps me keep God first. My reply is I pray and I put God before everything. YES EVERYTHING!
Now a couple years ago I could not say that. I chose to follow my selfish ways and did what I thought was best for me and not what God wanted for me.
Yes I make mistakes, yes I have set back, and yes there are days that I have difficulty being nice and patient with others.
But what really helped was meditation and keeping God at the front of every single thing I did. I took myself out of the picture and allowed God to have his way instead of me. I always tell people 2 things 1) God is not going to ask you about me. Which means is that I am held accountable for what I do in life, not what others do. 2) You have to get out of your own way in order for God to have his way. Meaning you have to do things God is asking you to do rather that doing what you think you need to be doing.
I had the absolute hardest time trusting God with my life. I continued to go down my own road and make decisions based on my feelings or greed or just plain felt I deserved it. And that got me absolutely NO WHERE! So how could I possibly go wrong with allowing God to lead me, I mean I was making poor decisions and I didn’t like how I was doing it.
Ok so the reason for the post, I’ve always enjoyed reading so this is a list of books that I have read that helped me get back on track to God and trusting him with my life.
Please leave any book recommendations in the comments. I am always looking forward to reading material that helps me get closer to God and becoming a better person.
Blessings.
Today, I can’t thank God enough for blessing me with 37 years of life. I look back at how far I have come and I am really excited about what I have coming in the next year.
As I turn another year older, I can only think of all the things that I have learned throughout the years. So, here are a few things I’d like to share that I have learned over the years:
This past year has been one that I will definitely remember. It has thrown me for a loop and a lot of unexpected things have happened. BUT GOD!
I know that there will be more difficulties ahead, but its all about how to react to them. With God, I can do anything and I know he will be right there with me for the next 37 years.
I count my blessings not my burdens. I look at what I have, not what I have not. I have stopped comparing what I have with what someone else has. Plus it’s a waste of time.
Everything has a season in your life, and although you may feel like this isn’t your season in life, believe that there is a reason you are going through certain things in life and know that you will overcome anything that you maybe going through.
My birthday wish is that whomever is reading this is blessed tremendously. Know that God is right there with you and you can do anything through Christ.
Proverbs 3:5-6: Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct they path.
This is the bible scripture I have meditated on daily, sometimes several times a day. It has helped me realize so much about my self and my relationship with God. He knows that I am not perfect, and he continues to forgive me, even when it’s hard for me to forgive myself.
Life is a blessing!
Today at church, the father told a great story about forgiveness. He spoke of a man who never wanted any gifts from anyone, he never wanted help from anyone, he never wanted anything. He was so angry. This story really touched me.
During Hurricane Harvey, this particular person’s house flooded and he required the help of others, and everyday they showed up to help, and everyday the man was mad. Finally the father talked with him and the male told him of a story. He told the Father when he was 15 years old, his mom bought him everything he needed for baseball. The bat, glove, etc. The young boy loved it, he was so excited about it, he couldn’t believe his mom had done that for him. When his dad got home, the mom told him what she had bought for their son, which made the dad extremely upset. It made him so upset, that he pushed the wife and made her head bleed. From that point on, the young man never wanted anything from anyone and did not forgive his father for hitting his mom.
The male, now older, spoke with the father, and told him how he wanted to be forgiven for the way he has been acting towards others that were trying to help him, and he wants to forgive his father. The father stayed and prayed with him and told him that Jesus asks us to forgive the same way he forgives us. That day a weight was lifted off of the man’s shoulders and you could see the relief on his face.
Could you imagine holding on to so much pain for so many years, what that could do to your body? What it could do your life? After listening to that, I realized that I too have difficulty forgiving those who have hurt me or forgiving those who have wronged me in some way. I’m sure my friends will tell you my attitude wasn’t the best, and I was always so negative.
God wants us to forgive others, not for them, but for YOU. When you hold on to anger, hatred, meanness etc., those don’t effect the person you’re angry at, they effect you and how you see life, and how you treat others.
Life is meant to be enjoyable and a blessing, but when we have these negative feelings, it hinders us to living the most amazing life. It also doesn’t allow you to work for God the way he needs you to work for him. Remember we are here to spread God’s love to others.
Let today be the day you let all the hurt feelings go. Forgive the person or persons who have done you wrong or talked about you. Release these negative thoughts so that you can let the positive vibes in.
PRAY – FORGIVE – LIVE
God wants you to enjoy every part of life and to enjoy life to the fullest. You can’t enjoy life with feelings of hate or trying to find ways to get back at someone. Pray, give it to God, forgive and watch how God changes your life.
Blessings.
Matthew 18: 21-22 (21)Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? (22)Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
“If you are feeling inpatient, irritable, bitter, forgetful, disorganized, & disconnected from God, it’s time to tend to your soul– Grab your Bible, Get alone with God” – Courtney Joseph
I came across this the other day and knew that it was speaking to me. With life, it can be hard to just keep going and going, however you have to tend to yourself before others. What good is it to not care for yourself? Have you ever tried to care for others when you haven’t cared for yourself? It very hard to spread the love of God if you’re on empty.
I have put together 31 Days of Scriptures for anyone who could use a refuel on their self, as well as grow deeper in God. I’ve learned that if I continue to put God first, he will help take care of me.
So I have taken 31 topics to focus and pray on each day. Start on what ever day you choose, however, the sooner the better. Remember to mark your calendars for the next 31 days with the time to meet with God. Make this extremely intentional.
(the Bible translation is New Living Translation)
Day 1: Hope – Psalm 39:7 And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in you.
Day 2: Forgiveness – Luke 17:4 Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”
Day 3: Love – 1 John 4:9 God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him.
Day 4: Patience – Colossians 1:11 We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy
Day 5: Sickness – Psalm 30:2 O Lord my God, I cried to you for help, and you restored my health.
Day 6: Health – Isaiah 38:16 Lord, your discipline is good, for it leads to life and health. You restore my health and allow me to live!
Day 7: Money – Psalms 112:5 Good comes to those who lend money generously and conduct their business fairly.
Day 8: Envy – Ecclesiastes 4:4 Then I observed that most people are motivated to success because they envy their neighbors. But this, too, is meaningless—like chasing the wind.
Day 9: Greed – Proverbs 28:25 Greed causes fighting; trusting the Lord leads to prosperity.
Day 10: Jealousy – Proverbs 14:30 A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer in the bones.
Day 11: Your words – James 4:11 Don’t speak evil against each other, dear brothers and sisters. If you criticize and judge each other, then you are criticizing and judging God’s law. But your job is to obey the law, not to judge whether it applies to you.
Day 12: Friendships – Romans 5:10 – For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son.
Day 13: Understanding – Proverbs 2:2 Tune your ears to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding.
Day 14: Thoughts – Ephesians 4:23 Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.
Day 15: Husband/Wife – 1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.
Day 16: Relationships – 2 John 1:9 Anyone who wanders away from this teaching has no relationship with God. But anyone who remains in the teaching of Christ has a relationship with both the Father and the Son.
Day 17: Parents – Proverbs 15:20 Sensible children bring joy to their father; foolish children despise their mother.
Day 18: Children – Colossians 3:20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord.
Day 19: Kindness – Proverbs 11:17 Your kindness will reward you, but your cruelty will destroy you.
Day 20: Lust – 2 Timothy 2:22 Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
Day 21: Deceit – Proverbs 12:20 Deceit fills hearts that are plotting evil; joy fills hearts that are planning peace!
Day 22: Occupation – Ephesians 6:7 Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.
Day 23: Siblings – Psalms 103:17 But the love of the Lord remains forever with those who fear him. His salvation extends to the children’s children
Day 24: Your church – Romans 14:19 So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up.
Day 25: Priest/Preachers – 2 Timothy 1:11 And God chose me to be a preacher, an apostle, and a teacher of this Good News.
Day 26: Government – Romans 13:7 Give to everyone what you owe them: Pay your taxes and government fees to those who collect them, and give respect and honor to those who are in authority.
Day 27: Neighbors – Psalms 101:5 I will not tolerate people who slander their neighbors. I will not endure conceit and pride.
Day 28: Pets – Genesis 1:25 God made all sorts of wild animals, livestock, and small animals, each able to produce offspring of the same kind. And God saw that it was good.
Day 29: Life – John 6:48 Yes, I am the bread of life!
Day 30: Blessings – Dueteronomy 28:2 “Look, today I am giving you the choice between a blessing and a curse!
Day 31: Humble – James 4:7 So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
As a recommendation, you may want to keep a journal when you’re praying for the next 31 days. Write all your thoughts , desires, short comings, accomplishments down so that you can reflect on your journal at the end of your 31 days. To see how far you have come and what you have worked on in these 31 days is a sign that God is still working and helping you.
These days of scripture are to help with your every day life and accomplishing anything you put your mind to. I try to do this 3 times a year. This gives me the chance to really focus on what is important to me and what I need to improve on and how much I have grown . I also like to do this because it has brings me closer to God.
Hope you enjoy the 31 days of scripture.
God bless.
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