Learning to Love Yourself

Learning to love yourself is one of the most difficult things to do. Think about it, you will congratulate others, tell them they are beautiful or handsome, tell them great job, and to continue to work hard.

Do you tell those same things to your self? Why do we hype up our family, friends, co-workers, but you don’t hype up you?

Let’s normalize giving your own self props for you accomplishments.

Let’s be ok with showing yourself love for the great things you do.

This is not being selfish, this taking care of your spirit and your well being. How often do you show yourself true love?

A few tips to do daily:

Daily affirmations

Take a few minutes to yourself daily

Accept that you make mistakes and it is ok

Read a daily motivational book

Write this on your mirror “You are amazing”

Learn to say “NO” – it’s ok, it helps protect your spirit

I will be posting daily on my IG page: coffeewithmrsking

Back in 2005ish, life for me was not at it’s best at this time. I you know you don’t always realize what friendships you have, however I continue to remember this moment. I was going through a lot, and I lived with one of my best friends. I am not sure what I was doing but I walked in my bathroom and she left a note for me written on the mirror in lipstick. I don’t remember all of it but I do remember it said, “you are an amazing mom and you are beautiful” I have never thought of myself as beautiful, an amazing mom, yes, but beautiful nah, and I still don’t, but to realize that you are beautiful doesn’t mean its your looks. Beauty is your attitude, your spirit, your heart.

I am grateful for her and her friendship.

Keep these people around, they’re here to help and celebrate you even when you don’t celebrate yourself.

Take some time today to work on loving yourself and putting yourself before others. Not to be selfish but for self care.

The Spirit of the Fruit – Love

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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. Against such things there is no law – Galatians 22-23 

Love: noun – Seeks the highest good of others

Definition of love:

1. an intense feeling of deep affection

2. a person or thing that one loves

How hard is it to love someone? How hard is it to love someone who has been mean, rude or evil to us?

When I think of love,  a couple things come to mind; a feeling I have for someone special and my son.

Being a mom is super tough in this aspect. I have to be strong for my son and be the example. Although at times, my example is not reflecting God.

The way God loves us doesn’t seem to cross my mind either. It is more of a rage and hurt feeling. I know I have to be the example for him however it would be much easier just to be mean or rude right back.

WWJD? Right?

I have been studying Love – Nine Fruits of the Spirit and this has really helped me with the aspect of loving like Jesus. There are people who can be rude or unbearable at times, however we have the choice on how to react to this.

I have learned to love like Jesus and this puts in much better mood, and it also does not give the other person power over my feelings and over the way I handle the situation.IMG_1276

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)

When I think of how God has loved me at my most difficult times, why can I not return the favor? Why is it so difficult to this simple action? LOVE!

Booker T. Washington said, ” I will not permit any man to diminish my soul to hatred.”

This touched my spirit is so many ways. I have been hurt and I have also hurt others. My life has changed in the worst way and it definitely has changed for the better. I have had my share of ups and downs as well. Everyday I thank God for showing me favor and giving me way more than I deserve.

“…let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth” (1 John 3:18)

This Scripture really hits home with me when showing love and how I should be loving others. One of the absolute heaviest burden to bare is holding a grudge. You are not going to be able to have a happy and loving life if you are mad and upset. Life gives you difficult moments and also the best moments. Continue to love the way God has loved you.

If you are having a hard time forgiving someone ask God for help. Pray, “Lord, forgive me, I can not forgive.” Pray this often and watch God transform your life and soften you heart. Remember forgiving others is not for them, it is for you.

Love is an action directed to another person that is motivated by our relationship to Jesus Christ. Love is given freely without a personal reward in mind.

Love one another as Jesus loves you.